Woohoo! We made it to Friday, another work week down! It was a long and interesting week and I am looking forward to relaxing. What are you getting into this weekend? Anything new?
Besides work, I chilled with a friend tonight and had such a great set of honest talks. There are few things I enjoy more than talking to someone that can really engage in thoughtful, meaningful conversation.
Among other things we talked about the notion of being used by other people. I admitted that there are times I have given away more of myself than was necessary. Then when that wasn't reciprocated I was left disappointed and feeling used. A hell of a feeling when you think you're doing a great job at keeping up your end of a relationship.
As the conversation progressed she made several really good points that resonated with me. I think maybe other people will find them useful too!
-If you are getting something from someone and giving something that is NOT being used that is bartering!
-Set good boundaries for yourself and other people in your life. When those boundaries require it tweak them.
-Don't give more than you can! For a relationship to work both people have to do their part for it to be mutually beneficial. If you feel it isn't you have the power to change it.
-BE HONEST! As often and as proudly as you can muster. Live your truth!
As we talked about being used she used the term "barter" to describe, in the simplest form, the exchanges in relationships. She made the point that when you decide to barter sometimes you do it on unequal terms. I admitted to trading and not always being happy with what I received/gave away. I am sure many people feel like that. Take a minute to think about that.
Now think about this: you and your happiness are not up for trade! You can not find happiness in a world defined by other people's opinions, needs or boundaries. We each have to decide our own limits.
I challenge you to be honest about something you are trading and work to change it. I am doing the same because I want better. I want to get to the point where my worth is more than any trade! Good luck! #NoTrading #BorrowSeason
Besides work, I chilled with a friend tonight and had such a great set of honest talks. There are few things I enjoy more than talking to someone that can really engage in thoughtful, meaningful conversation.
Among other things we talked about the notion of being used by other people. I admitted that there are times I have given away more of myself than was necessary. Then when that wasn't reciprocated I was left disappointed and feeling used. A hell of a feeling when you think you're doing a great job at keeping up your end of a relationship.
As the conversation progressed she made several really good points that resonated with me. I think maybe other people will find them useful too!
-If you are getting something from someone and giving something that is NOT being used that is bartering!
-Set good boundaries for yourself and other people in your life. When those boundaries require it tweak them.
-Don't give more than you can! For a relationship to work both people have to do their part for it to be mutually beneficial. If you feel it isn't you have the power to change it.
-BE HONEST! As often and as proudly as you can muster. Live your truth!
As we talked about being used she used the term "barter" to describe, in the simplest form, the exchanges in relationships. She made the point that when you decide to barter sometimes you do it on unequal terms. I admitted to trading and not always being happy with what I received/gave away. I am sure many people feel like that. Take a minute to think about that.
Now think about this: you and your happiness are not up for trade! You can not find happiness in a world defined by other people's opinions, needs or boundaries. We each have to decide our own limits.
I challenge you to be honest about something you are trading and work to change it. I am doing the same because I want better. I want to get to the point where my worth is more than any trade! Good luck! #NoTrading #BorrowSeason